The Future Stands on the Shoulders of the Women

Since I started this blog I signed up for a bunch of different google alerts, news alerts on specific topics that interest me. I give google some keywords of issues I want news updates on and several times a day (which is one of the settings of the application) I receive emails with links to all possible internet sources on those topics…God bless google. So my alerts are about women’s rights in the middle east, the green movement in Iran, etc. And my eyes have been peeled open by some of the things I come across in these alerts. I realized how silly it is to say that women in the middle east are silenced. It’s just not true. Yes, many are…many suffer at the hands of dogma or regulations, we hear all about those things…but soooo many women are so incredibly active, so bold, so fearless and Eloquent, my God.

The most inspiring event that I experienced in my life so far  was hearing Shirin Ebadi talk at Columbia University. It was 2 or 3 years ago, she was there to give a talk about her new autobiography, Iran Awakening and also about the role of women in world peace.

She is such a sweet and endearing lady…tiny with very round features…big Iranian eyes. I wanted to hug her (and I actually did!) she had a translator for the talk, and at the end she had a lengthy q&a session. One student asked her the star question, “Ms. Ebadi, what do you think is the role of women in the future of Iran.” Ebadi smiled knowingly, and in her tone of voice I could hear her saying (eventhough it was in Farsi), “Listen, hunny; the ‘Future of Iran’… it will stand On the Shoulders of the Women.” Meaning, the point is not the “role” women will play in it….it’s just not going to happen WITHOUT the women. Haha :)

My mom would always tell me, if you look at the countries that are suffering the most, they are the ones in which the women are the most oppressed. That’s because, as we all should know by now…a society will never go very far if it ties up the hands of half its population. Period. It’s logic.

So, yes, the inspring article of the evening is the following:

Let’s just note, please, what this woman looks like…oh, yes, she is in a black burkah

But guess what? I’m alllllll the way here, thousands of miles away and I can identify her words, her name, her message. So I guess forcing us to speak behind a black bag still doesn’t drown out our voices, amazing! And it sure doesn’t make the clerics’ postulations and fatwas any louder.

So how did I hug Shirin Ebadi? :) After her talk they had a little cocktail thing where she was signing books for people. I bought her book and went to her to sign. At this point i knew ummm…five words in farsi. But I managed to walk over, say “salaam, hale shomaa khoobe?” (formal way of saying, hello, how are you?) She responded graciously and said something to the effect of (i believe) “shall I sign this for you?” I answered with my eyes, since i had exhausted my farsi at that point. Then when she was done she asked me, “Farsi harf mizani?” (Do you speak farsi?) And i said something like “ye kam” (a little). She got very enthusiastic, took me by the arms and told me “Learn Farsi, learn it well and use your words, you are Iranian.”

I know what I am. I am Turkish born, and my father is Iranian and has super genes that completely dominated my phenotype :) But she hit it on the mark…words are incredible power. May we use our words to bring peace.

Shabbat Shalom!

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Beyond Patriarchy

Two researchers from the Centre for Muslim Minorities and Islam Policy Studies at Monash University in Australia, Rebecca Barlow and Shahram Akbarzadeh, wrote an article that was published in the Human Rights Quarterly in 2008. It’s called “Prospects for feminism in the Islamic Republic of Iran“. This was an important article for me because while I have been interested in the topic of middle eastern women for a few years now, it was one of the first articles that brought out in me a desire to write and speak about my thoughts. My last post, “fragments of a whole” was kind of a philosophical segue to some of the major issues that I plan to bring up over the next few months. This root issue I want to talk about first is that of modernization and its effects on traditional social structures and world views. Barlow and Akbarzadeh talk about how feminism is undergoing a deconstruction, or rather, schism, as it becomes increasingly clear that secular feminism and Islamic feminism are not as reconcilable as people had hoped. For a country in which women are trying to find their bearings, maneuvering through a “theocracy” (emphasis on the quotation marks, the term is nominal if not comical), “feminism” is too broad a term, too flimsy a raft to cling to in the opposing tides of modernity (secularism, westernization, pro-American mentality) and an Islamic Regime.

In mentioning feminism, I’d like to strip down that concept, go a little more basic, to the idea of femininity, the female in the context of our world and our social constructs today. The Middle East is an important place to consider when looking at some deep rooted social constructs because it has successfully maintained a rather rigid social structure over the past few hundred years. These social structures have a strong sense of patriarchy. I used to credit this to the religion of the region, Islam. Indeed, religion is used as a means to perpetuate a patriarchal society, especially in countries like the Islamic Republic of Iran. But we must consider the following: 1) It is extremely incorrect to say Islam is THE religion that perpetuates patriarchy, because it is not. Judaism, Hinduism, etc…all should be given that credit as well. 2) Many, MANY, can argue that patriarchy is a misinterpretation and mis-practice of each of these religions. 3) My main point: Patriarchy is Beyond religion. Religion has in too many cases (though, hear me, not all cases), become a tool; it has become a silenced, shapeless channel for the manipulations of scared, misinformed, brusque people.

Now here, I turn my argument to the women who live with/within patriarchy. I speak with MUCH humility in all that I am to say, because I know I am ignorant of almost all of the realities of living in the Middle East. I have been brought up in America, of all places, by a “liberated” woman. But despite this, all of this, it did not escape me that even in my situation and in my place of upbringing the concept of “liberating a woman” is in existence, and for one thing to exist its opposite had to have preceded it. Obviously, it was not long ago that women here were just as “unliberated” (let me leave that term vague). But there are certain elements that can significantly quicken the pace of change, the breadth of leaps and bounds and the amount of growth that can occur in real time.

One element that stuck in my mind through TV commercials, posters in school hallways, bus stop advertisements, subway posters, radio commercials as I was growing up was the “Role Model”. “Be a role model,” “who is your role model?” Why are role models so important? Because they really DO make that much of a difference, and it’s fair to say that it’s made all the difference in at least American Women’s History. Of course, it comes hand in hand with exposure, education, and education doesn’t come easily and certainly not for free… So, perhaps the inaccessibility of role models is what leaves many women locked up in undeserved and unjust silence.

One of my objectives with this blog was to explore this issue of connecting women, opening the world and breaking the walls that separate us so that we can all reach out and Realize all that we deserve. But I will be the first to admit, my medium is, ironically, another barrier. Presumably, ones who really need the ideas I and others like me are talking about are barred from internet, education or communication. Till I find a better way of reaching out, and I will, about the societies that believe “a crucial factor in the maintenance of social cohesion … is men’s control over women,” (see reference below) I would like to say the following:

There was a time, a long, long time ago, when humankind was still overcoming the shock of achieving a higher level of cognizance. Humankind was in a state of trauma, newly discovered threats loomed at every turn. One did not understand him/herself enough to fathom the thoughts and intentions of another – mutual understanding or trust of any kind would be Ages away.

Social order fits its time and its people. To govern others based on brute strength is the easiest when wisdom and higher processing are not at disposal. Thus it is conceivable why societies were built on conquest and fear, and Patriarchy is the modern day version of this form of “socio-political order”. But we are beyond that and have been for too long now. It is incredible to me, however, to realize, everyday, how much of our social constructs still function on this prehistoric credo: I credit most of the oppression of women and the submission of women to this oppression and abuse to primeval and antiquated ideology…and also to the lack of accessible role models that exhibit progress and offer alternatives.

I wonder everyday how I can know myself better and know my world well enough to reach out …

Reference (the article I mentioned at the beginning – I highly recommending reading it!):

Barlow, R., and Akbarzadeh, S. (2008) Prospects for feminism in the Islamic Republic of Iran. Human Rights Quarterly, 30 (1), 21-40.

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